right now I am the happiest that I have been in a really long time which is crazy because I feel like I have spent so much of the last few years trying to

現在是我很長時間以來最開心的時候，這有點不可思議，因為我覺得過去幾年花了很多力氣在

add things into my life find the right combination of routines possessions aesthetic to really create that deep satisfaction and contentment and the thing that has actually done it for me

往生活里加東西——找對習慣、物品、審美的組合，來創造那種深深的滿足和安心。真正幫我做到這點的，

has been simplifying minimizing my life my home today's video I want to share 30 things that I have quit to simplify my life which have actively made it better

是簡化和極簡我的生活、我的家。今天的影片我想分享我為了簡化生活而戒掉的30件事，它們在我戒掉之後讓生活變得更好。

in their absence the first thing that I have quit since simplifying my life has been using my phone as a hobby in September I read the book digital

第一件我戒掉的事，是把手機當愛好。九月我讀了Cal Newport的《數字極簡主義》，然後真的做了30天數字排毒：遠離社交

minimalism by Cal Newport and then I actually ended up doing a 30-day digital detox where I stayed off of social media I removed a lot of unnecessary

媒體，刪掉很多不必要的

technology left my phone in black and white and there were a lot of takeaways that I got from that but one of the biggest ones was how much I have used in

科技，把手機調成黑白。我從中學到很多，其中最大的一點是：我有多依賴

my phone to fill the Gap and absence of hobbies and extra curriculars in my life if I wasn't working or actively getting something done I was probably scrolling

用手機填補生活中愛好和課外活動的空缺。只要不是在幹活或主動完成什麼事，我多半在刷屏。

I didn't have creative Outlets I didn't really have ways to connect with people or things to just do and I didn't realize that I was feeling the effects

我沒有創作出口，沒有真正和人連線的方式，也沒有可以隨便做的事，我沒意識到自己在承受

of that until I stopped you need Hobbies but don't make your phone one of them which actually leads into my next point and that was not prioritizing my Leisure

那種影響，直到我停下來。你需要愛好，但別把手機當愛好之一——這正好引出下一點：沒有把休閒生活放在優先。

Life In the book K Newport talks a lot about how much we have replaced high quality Leisure Life with whatever we will settle for as a source of dopamine

Cal Newport在書裡講了很多：我們有多用「隨便能獲得多巴胺的東西」取代高質量的休閒生活，

and how much that's impacted us as a society before I stopped using my phone as a hobby I hadn't been bored in a really long time because if I ever had

以及這對社會有多大影響。在我把手機當愛好之前，我很久沒無聊過了，因為只要生活裡有

space in my life there was something right there ready to fill it having the flexibility and the freedom to be bored made me realize that not only is it

空檔，就有什麼東西立刻填滿它。擁有可以無聊的靈活和自由讓我意識到，不僅值得

important to formal Le your life but it's actually something worth prioritizing and intentionally developing the next thing that I quit was having a morning routine and listen

正式化你的生活，而且值得優先、有意地去發展。下一件我戒掉的是「必須有晨間慣例」。聽著，

if you have a morning routine that adds structure and sense of purpose to your morning I love that for you that was not my experience I have tried for years to

如果你有晨間慣例，能給早上帶來結構和意義感，我為你高興，那不是我的經歷。我試了好幾年

develop the perfect morning routine and my story has always been I found something I loved it for a week then it started to stress me out if I didn't hit

打造完美晨間慣例，我的故事總是：找到一樣東西，喜歡一週，然後如果沒做到就開始焦慮。

it so then I would try to establish another another morning routine cycle would just go on and on and on until I finally just stopped I'm a morning

於是我又試另一種，晨間慣例的迴圈就這樣一直重複，直到我乾脆不搞了。我是

person I love mornings and allowing myself to just kind of take each one as it comes and do what I need on that specific day has allowed me to be a lot

晨型人，喜歡早上。讓自己隨每個早上自然來、那天需要什麼就做什麼，反而讓我

more productive actually get myself ready and really just enjoy that time a lot more I quit my just in case items as I am exploring minimalism one of the

更高效，真的把自己收拾好，也更享受那段時間。我戒掉了「以防萬一」的東西。在探索極簡時，最先

first and foremost things that I was confronted with was how many things have remained in my possession just in case at some point I want to use where do

面對的問題之一就是：有多少東西一直留著，只是萬一某天想用、想拿它們

something with them the amount of time and storage that has gone to these items in my life that I have never reached for once is absurd I've been implementing

做點什麼。花在這些我一次都沒碰過的東西上的時間和空間，簡直荒謬。我一直在用

this rule that my husband told me about which it's called the 2020 rule it's like if you can replace it for $20 or less in 20 minutes or less just get rid

我老公告訴我的規則，叫「20/20規則」：如果20塊錢以內、20分鐘以內能再買/再弄到，就扔掉。

of it I have quit absolutes I can definitely be an all or nothing person and I think particularly in the minimalism self-development simple living space there's a lot of people who

我戒掉了絕對化。我確實可能是非黑即白的人，尤其在極簡、自我成長、簡單生活這塊，很多人

will come out and tell you always do this never do that and my brain loves those statements I love rules I love black and white except that I hate it

會跳出來說「永遠做這個、永遠別做那個」，我腦子很吃這一套，我喜歡規則、喜歡黑白分明——除了我其實很討厭這樣。

the idea of it feels so comforting to me to have these hard boundaries but so much of life doesn't always follow those things giving myself the flexibility to

有這些硬邊界讓我很有安全感，但生活裡太多事並不總按這些來。給自己彈性，在

change my mind as my journey continues and my life changes and my perspective shifts trying to make everyone happy in May of this year I accidentally went

旅程繼續、生活變化、看法轉變時改變主意。我戒掉了「讓所有人開心」。今年五月我意外在

viral on Instagram I had posted a video of myself putting tul lips in a teapot like a vase and I was just like oh my

Instagram上火了。我發了個影片，把鬱金香插在茶壺裡當花瓶，我就覺得哇好可愛，結果有400萬播放。不知道為什麼、也不知道怎麼，收到很多惡意，我其實把App刪了幾週，因為

gosh it's so cute and it got $4 million views don't know why don't know how I got so much hate I actually deleted the app for a few weeks because I was

評論和私信太難聽了。那段經歷雖然很不舒服，但我學到很重要的一課：

getting comments and DMS that were just so nasty and while that experience was very unpleasant one really valuable lesson that I took away from it was that

你根本沒法讓所有人開心。如果那麼多人真的被茶壺裡的鬱金香冒犯到、還專門花時間告訴我，

you literally cannot make everyone happy if so many people were genuinely offended by and took the time out of their day to tell me so tul lips in a

那我討好不了整個網際網路。還戒掉了不必要的預約。我是那種喜歡收拾得體的人，但也是

teapot I have no hope of of pleasing the internet also quit unnecessary appointments I am a girl who loves to feel pulled together but I'm also a girl

不愛出門的人。今年我一直在挑戰自己：我付錢買的服務裡，有多少可以自己來做。所以

who hates leaving the house this year I've been really challenging myself to figure out how much of the services that I pay for I can just do for myself so

從一月起我自己染髮根——劇透：不是天生紅髮。我自己做指甲，雖然現在沒做。然後最近

I've been dying my own Roots since January plot twist not a natural redhead I've been doing my own Nails although they're not done right now and then the

幾個月我其實自己染眉毛。八月做過一次就愛上染眉了，但要50塊，我就覺得

last couple months I've actually been tinting my own brows fell in love with getting my brows tinted when I had them done in August but it was $50 and I just

每月50塊染眉，一定有更省的辦法。謝謝嫂子Bailey教我自己弄。

felt like $50 a month for tinted brows there has to be a better way shout out to my sister-in-law Bailey for teaching me how to do it on my own productivity

戒掉「為生產力而生產力」。懂的人懂，你姐愛生產力、目標、習慣、心態那一套，但我常掉進的坑是

for productivities sake if you know you know your girl loves productivity goal setting habits mindset all of that stuff but a trap that I've often fallen into

相信「最好的做法永遠是做得更多」，而不真的停下來問自己：我在完成的到底是什麼

operating under the belief that the best course of action is always to accomplish more without really stopping to ask myself about what it is that I'm

或者為什麼。這是今年夏天和以前幾次倦怠的很大原因。我真的很

accomplishing or why this was a huge contributing factor to the burnout that I experienced this summer and burnout I've experienced in the past I really

陷進這種節奏。

get caught up in this rhythm of just doing doing doing without actually asking myself if what I'm doing is contributing to the overarching vision of my life and what I'm trying to build

陷進「做做做」的節奏，而不問自己：正在做的事有沒有在貢獻我人生的大願景、我想建和

and create focusing on slow intentional productivity doing less but just doing it better and making really high quality versions of everything that I do I have

創造的東西。改成專注慢而有意的高效：做得少一點，但做得更好，把每件事都做成真正高質量的版本。我戒掉了

quit the need to be taken seriously this is a little chip that I've carried around of my shoulder for as long as I can remember of just feeling like I

「必須被認真對待」的需要。這是我一直扛在肩上的小包袱，總覺得在每種場合都要證明自己，被人認真對待對我很重要。後來終於到了一個點：你知道

needed to prove myself in every circumstance it was very important to me to be taken seriously by people finally hit a point where I was like you know

嗎，總會有人不把我當回事，我做什麼都改變不了，但我很煩把精力和

what there are going to be people who don't take me seriously and there's nothing that I can do to change that but I am very sick of having my energy and

時間花在那上面，明明可以專注別的事。我戒掉了瞎逛促銷。我從小就是促銷購物狂，愛撿便宜，到處比價、爭取最劃算是個好選擇，但瞎逛促銷通常讓我

my time go towards that when I could just be focusing on something else I've quit browsing sales I've been a sales Shopper my whole life I love a good

純粹因為便宜就買東西，而不是因為需要。現在我手機上有張清單，是接下來三到四個月裡希望買的東西，我會試著

bargain shopping around and like trying to get the best deal is a great option browsing sales has usually led me to just buy stuff because it's cheap not

在假日促銷時去找那幾樣具體東西，而不是刷一頁頁打折品、被

because I need it I currently have a list on my phone of things that I'm hoping to purchase at some point in the next 3 to 4 months that I'm going to try

誘惑。這個習慣其實來自我戒掉的另一件事：維持匱乏心態。這是我能記事後就有的，

and watch holiday sales 4 able to go search for that specific item without scrolling through pages and pages of discounted items and feeling tempted by

在假日促銷時去找那幾樣具體東西，而不是刷一頁頁打折品、被誘惑。這個習慣其實來自我戒掉的另一件事：維持匱乏心態。這是我能記事後就有的，

them and that habit really comes out of another thing that I've quit which is just maintaining a scarcity mindset this is something I've had as long as I can

就像一種根深蒂固的恐懼——怕不夠，總覺得在錢和

remember just like a deep-seated fear of not having enough and feeling like I always need to have way way more than I need for both financially and I think in

東西上都需要遠遠超過實際需要的量。這對我來說一直是安全感和穩定感的來源，我在很努力地放下這種需要，在

stuff as well that's been a source of security and stability for me and I'm working really hard to kind of let go of that need and just find comfort and

信靠上帝供應、接受「我們現在有的就夠用」裡找到安心。我不再購買任何

trust in the Lord to provide and be okay with just like we have what we need for right now I am no longer purchasing any

對家、對身體或皮膚有害的產品。化妝也是。今年我在學激素健康和內分泌乾擾物，

toxic products for our home or my body and skin makeup I've been on a journey this year learning a lot about my hormonal health and endocrine disruptors

意識到很多我們帶進家的產品對健康很有害，可能帶來嚴重的長期

and just realized that a lot of the products that we have been bringing into our home are very harmful for our health with potentially really negative side

副作用。換掉之後我覺得我們其實在省錢，而且品質高很多、對我們更好。

effects down the road I'm pretty sure we're actually saving money now with the products that we've swapped to and they're much higher quality much better

下一件我戒掉的是熬夜。說實話，我以長期疲憊的狀態活了

for us the next thing I've quit is staying up late I honestly think it's hilarious that I've kind of lived in a state of like permanent exhaustion for

十年，從沒想過、也沒人提醒過我，解決辦法可能真的就是多睡點。九月中旬我開始早睡很多，

10 years and it never occurred to me nor was it ever suggested to me that the solution might literally just be getting more sleep I started going to bed a lot

改變 literally overnight 就很誇張。早睡之後下午三點不再犯困，精力夠撐一整天，睡眠穩定，心理狀態好很多。雖然偶爾有點FOMO，我通常

earlier kind of mid-september and the change it made literally overnight is insane when I go to bed early my 3 o'cl slump doesn't happen I have enough

是第一個走的。我在那些時刻裡感覺很好、更在當下，所以對我來說絕對值得。下一件我戒掉的是

energy to last the whole day I sleep well consistently my mental health is a lot better and while there is a little bit of fomo here and there I'm usually

手機上的社交媒體App。我覺得我沒法和手機上的App建立健康關係，會刷、浪費很多時間，

the first one to leave things I feel so good and much more present when I am in those moments that it's definitely worth it for me the next thing that I have

在那方面自控力很差。放在電腦上會好很多，工作時可以上去一下，但不會

quit is social media apps on my phone I don't think I'm capable of having a healthy relationship with the apps on my phone I scroll I waste a lot of time and

24小時觸手可及。我覺得我不需要。快餐。這個很難戒，

I have very little self-control in that capacity having them on my computer makes it a lot easier for me to kind of hop on during my workday but I don't

但天哪漲價太多了，反而好戒了。我對快餐的弱點是

have it at my disposal 24 hours a day and I just don't think that I need it fast food this was a hard one for me to

24小時觸手可及。我覺得我不需要快餐。這個很難戒，

get started on but oh my gosh the prices have gone up so much that it made it a lot easier my weak spot for fast food is

但天哪漲價太多了，反而好戒了。我對快餐的弱點是

always when I'm out running errands and I forgot to eat lunch or I'm hungry I need a snack and it's right there I wanted junior bacon cheese cheeseburger

每次出門辦事忘了吃午飯、餓了要零食，它就在那兒。我想要培根芝士小漢堡，

now I really want a junior bacon cheeseburger I should not have said that but it's expensive I never feel good afterwards and I have recently

現在真的好想要一個培根芝士小漢堡，不該說的。但貴、吃完從沒覺得好過，我最近

implemented a strict budget for myself so that is not happening we're not doing fast food anymore one of the best things that I've quit to simplify my life and

給自己定了嚴格預算，所以不吃了，不再吃快餐了。我為了簡化生活戒掉的最好的事之一、

one of the things I would most strongly recommend to anyone else is expecting uniformity out of my days this really came out of starting to understand my

也是最推薦大家的，是戒掉「期待每天一樣」。這來自我開始理解自己的

hormonal rhythms and cycle and how that was affecting me throughout my life and the different rhythms and particularly how it was affecting my brain for for

激素節奏和週期，以及它如何影響我整個人生、不同階段，尤其如何影響我的大腦，

years particularly since being self-employed I have really struggled with feeling like my capacity was very inconsistent I'm a writer I did freelance writing for years I WR a book

多年如此，尤其自僱以後。我一直在糾結：感覺自己的狀態很不穩定。我是寫作者，做過多年自由撰稿，寫過一本書，

a couple years ago and I would have weeks where I felt like the words were just pouring out of me faster than I could possibly keep them in and then I

幾年前寫的。有的週感覺字句嘩嘩往外湧，快得記不住，然後

would have another week where I felt like I was having so many ideas for blog posts articles book ideas but I couldn't just sit down and actually write them

有的週感覺部落格、文章、書的想法一大堆，但就是沒法坐下來真的寫出來。

made me feel like such a failure because I would try to plan what I wanted to do one day or one week and then my brain

讓我覺得自己很失敗，因為我會計劃一天或一週要做什麼，然後腦子

wouldn't cooperate with me and it was so frustrating and disempowering and it just turns out my brain doesn't work like that I think to some extent

就是不配合，太讓人沮喪、無力。結果發現我的腦子不是那樣運轉的。我覺得在某種程度上，

expecting uniformity is harmful for everybody but particularly for the female brain which does not run on a 24-hour hormonal cycle but a 28 day one

期待每天一樣對誰都有害，尤其對女性大腦——它不是24小時激素週期，而是28天。

you will literally experience different periods of intense creativity intense motivation periods of increased reflection when your brain is communicating most effectively and it's actually more valuable for you to sit

你 literally 會經歷不同階段：強烈創意期、強烈動力期、更多反思期，大腦溝通最有效的時候。坐下來

down and kind of assess where you're at understanding that has not only helped me be more productive and efficient in my workflow where I'm able to kind of

評估自己處在哪個階段，理解這一點不僅讓我在工作流裡更高效，能

align the tasks with what I'm best at in a given week but it's also helped me have much more realistic expectations for myself and that's just been such a

把任務和那一週最擅長的對齊，也讓我對自己有更現實的期待，這真是

gift last but definitely not least the final thing that I have quit to simplify my life has been choosing options over Simplicity this is something I've done

一份禮物。最後但同樣重要，我為了簡化生活戒掉的最後一件事是：選「選項」而不是「簡單」。這事我做了

in my wardrobe in my kitchen in my makeup bag for years it's just I've placed such a high value on having options to choose from and feeling like

很多年——衣櫥、廚房、化妝包。我就是把「有選項可選」看得很重，覺得

I can just wake up and decide what I'm in the mood for because I have all of these options rather than giving myself a select group of high quality items

可以醒來再決定今天想要什麼，因為選項多，而不是給自己一小批高質量、確定喜歡的東西。

that I know that I love this is what I've been doing lately and while I was operating under the assumption that it would feel restrictive it's been so

最近我一直在這麼做。本以為會很有束縛感，結果非常

freeing and so fun every day I'm wearing something I love I feel cute and it's removed the choice paralysis and decision fatigue that I was experiencing

自由、很好玩。每天穿的都是喜歡的，覺得自己好看，也去掉了那種選擇癱瘓和決策疲勞，

on an almost daily basis all of this process is really just about simplifying my life to increase the quality and my experience and just be able to focus

幾乎每天都在經歷。這整件事就是為了簡化生活、提高質量和體驗，更能專注

most on the things that matter to me rather than spending so much of my time dealing with maintenance of things I really don't care about simplifying my

在真正重要的事上，而不是花那麼多時間打理我根本不在乎的東西。簡化

life has been such an incredible process I'm really excited to keep going and I actually think I want to do a one-ear like update of this video so I'll remake

生活是一段很棒的旅程。我很興奮會繼續，其實想一年後做個更新，重拍

it in a year and kind of see what's the same what's changed if there are other things that I have found that I've quit if there are things in this video that I

這支影片，看看什麼一樣、什麼變了，有沒有又戒掉別的，有沒有這期裡的事我

have changed my mind on yeah I really appreciate you being here I hope that this video was helpful I would love to know if there's anything that you've

改主意了。很感謝你在這裡看，希望這支影片對你有用。很想知道你有沒有

removed from your life that's made a big difference definitely leave a comment and let me know I'd love to hear about it I hope you have a good day because

從生活中去掉什麼、帶來很大改變的事，一定在評論裡告訴我，很想聽。祝你今天好，因為

today is a good day to have a good day and that's it bye

今天正是過好日子的一天。就這些，拜。